1 Peter 5:7 (TLB) These trials are only to test your faith, to see whether or not it is strong and pure."
I'm writing my thoughts here because it helps me to think "outloud". It's been a couple weeks since my friend's husband died and I'm ready to write down my thoughts. I called my father to ask him "What do you do when there is no more hope?" We had prayed in faith for this man; he was in agreement with us and so were his words; he was listening to healing tapes; we prayed using the healing scriptures; we did everything we knew to do; and he still died. Too young at 67. My faith was very shaken. My dad had no answers and is wondering the same thing. My thoughts going through this were:
- all the praying and believing were for nothing
- the Word didn't work
- we prayed wrong
- didn't pray enough
- didn't truly believe
- even though we were truly expecting and seeing a miracle in our imaginations, it wasn't enough
- I didn't care enough or have enough compassion (pride)
- why should I pray if they are all going to die anyway? (compassion)
- my faith........what faith
- cancer is too strong for us (not God)
- God doesn't always heal on earth (goes against everything I've been taught and really believe)
- I'm ashamed, embarrased, hurt (pride)
- I let my friend and the others who were praying down by giving them hope (pride)
- I have no power to be like Jesus (woe is me)
- How can I ever again pray in faith using the Word?
- My faith has been attack (yes, duh, gonna happen)
- I feel like a wounded soldier (pity party)
- This is all my fault. God is not to blame. His Word is still true. I missed it. (pride)
I'm writing these down because I don't think I'm the only one who's ever thought these things. Now on to how I'm growing out of this into something better:
We need to know what the will of the Lord is in all situations. Yes, it is always God's will to heal. But, I feel we were presumptuous in the way we went about it. We just immediately started quoted the scriptures and commanding the devil to leave. Good stuff but maybe not what God wanted for us to be doing at that moment. There are other issues that are more important and need to be taken care of first. In this case, we never asked God how to pray for our friend. We never applied the blood of Jesus over him or the hospital room. Presumption is what got the Israelites in trouble in Numbers 14. Verse 44 says they presumed to go up but God had already said don't go, I'm not with you in verse 42.
Jesus told us to ask the Father in John 15 two times: verse 7 and 16. Sometimes we feel like we don't need to ask. "It's okay God, I've got this one covered. I know enough to handle this on my own." Presumption.
Yes, God is sovereign. Sometimes I think that statement is used as a "copout" so we don't have to take responsibility for missing it and not asking Him first.
I know the devil would like to destroy my hope; he already stole my friend's husband and murdered him with cancer. He will NOT destroy my faith. I may have fallen down, but I will get up seven times more than I fall and be stronger than before; totally convinced that God's Word never fails; and I need more than ever to have a quickening Word from Him every moment of the day. Nor will he defeat my friend's faith. We stepped out, used our faith, and failed. But we will get back up and learn how to operate in the kingdom with the Holy Spirit's help. She is an amazing lady, full of grace.
Which brings me to my thoughts of compassion. Did I love her enough? No. I had no compassion. She is a very strong lady and a role model to me of grace and mercy. Compassion is being touched with others feelings and doing something about them to make it better. Jesus! If we were more compassionate like He is, we'd see more miracles.
Yes, our friend is healed now in heaven. But hope deferred makes the heart sick. What good is healing in heaven when we need it here and now? If Jesus' sacrifice didn't cover life on earth, then why are we still here? That's mean. There are too many scriptures that say He sent Jesus and healed them all and delivered them from their destructions and bodily pains and whatever is needed.
I've also noted that those thoughts above were very prideful; all about me, and how I failed. IT's NOT ABOUT ME. Thoughts are definitely the battleground here.
I'll not be moved away from the hope of the gospel. Time is helping and staying in the Word ,even though I had these thoughts, and praying in tongues and worshipping all helped me to get myself picked up and back to trusting Him. (Jude 20).
I hope this helps someone else too.