The Holy Spirit through the Apostle Paul was speaking to husbands here about loving their wives not to make sure that they respect and submit to them To love them like Christ showed the church, to love them like their own bodies, wow that is a task when the wife is not being lovable isn't it! It is still required of the husband to love their wives even it is not the easiest thing to do but Jesus never asks to do something we can't do He is just (fair)And this expectation will not disappoint us. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. ROMANS 5:5

 

 

And further, you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything. You wives must submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord.

 

 

I think this is one subject is so misunderstood in the body submission first it has to be the choice of the wife, and that the wife is commanded by the Lord to submit whether the husband deserves respect or submission all in the confines of biblical principles we are to be submitted to Christ first  The three things that I learned from Brother Kieth Moore about what submission is not .  1. It is not easy! 2.  It is not agreement  3. It is  not forced upon. When we realize we need to be responsible for our own actions not the actions of our spouse we wii begin to have Days Of Heaven in our homes!